Shifting the Atmosphere (When Things Go Wrong)
We all have those days, weeks, months, or even years where we lose our footing. Every decision and feeling we have seems unreliable. We begin to think at any given moment our legs will give out from underneath us. Together we can avoid lingering in our sadness. If you didn’t notice, the world is too beautiful to be trapped in such ugly emotions. I don’t ever want to see you hurt. I’ve said this before, stranger or not, no one deserves pain on any level.
Below are 3 steps I’ve used to embrace my challenges and ways I attempt to officially overcome them. Nothing is instant, but every little bit of positive action helps destroy the negative.
1. Rewire your mind to rework your thoughts.
If you have been dwelling on the same woes or holdups for an extended period of time, you’ve got to rework them. Put your situation into a better light. Get a new perspective on what you’re going through by opening up to someone who will be honest with you, or can remind you of how awesome you are. It helps because when we are “down and out” we tend to bully ourselves into an even worse downward spiral. Please don’t do this. For the most part, we control what we feel and to an extent we can control how long we feel it. The moment you’ve been stricken with a sour emotion, ask yourself a few question to pinpoint what’s bothering you. You can’t feel anything without your consent. Remember that. Another reminder? Don’t let the bad situations overpower you. Those can easily ease into the good aspects of your life. Keep things in a compartment and deal with them accordingly.
2. Rework your circle.
Have you ever found that when you get around certain people your mood shifts, and not for the better? Or, maybe you didn’t even notice with whom this happened, but you always wondered why you were chipper 5 minutes ago and then you weren’t. The people you feel this way around are not helping your situation. If these are people you’ve done things for and they haven’t given back, or they borrowed from you and never returned the merch, etc….Leave. The world is vast and you don’t owe anyone who isn’t helping you to improve. You only owe yourself to let go and move forward to find those people who do deserve you. The ones who will give back and do for you the way you have for the ones in your past.
3. Renew your whole self.
When you’re going through it, it never feels temporary. You feel like it’s eternal, the sorrow. It isn’t. It’s dismaying, I know, but you usually have to pick yourself up and renew your whole self. No one can save you, but you. Also, no one knows what you’re thinking except you. You know you the best, so you know what it takes to heal. Shift your atmosphere. Change your thoughts, bring some optimism into your life, and go out some times! Don’t stay cooped up. We were made to explore, baby! You have to go be a part of the world – whether with your others or alone. Just do something out of your ordinary that you think will bring you joy. I like walks, I like an occasional intense workouts, I love sitting on the swings at night – I’m very simple. Being around nature is what heals me. I’m not much of a partier, you might be. If you’re worried someone will judge what makes you happy, don’t. It’s your world. This is your atmosphere. This is your life. Your life. Don’t just exist a certain because it’s “what you’re supposed to do”. Do what you want just be happy.
Remember all that keeps you motivated in the first place. That part of you is still alive and thriving. It’s just overshadowed by worry, which doesn’t help you at all. I want you to reach within yourself and pull that part of you back to the surface. Don’t let him or her drown because of a bad feeling, situation, financial issue, etc. etc. Come back up, inhale, and persevere.